A man seeks advice after posting to the ‘AITA’ (Am I The A** Hole) subreddit asking users if he was right or wrong to delete his newborn son’s Instagram.
The man, 33, explained that he and his wife, 30, like to keep a “low profile” when it comes to posting on their respective social media accounts.
He went on to say that he and his wife both have accounts on some of the most famous platforms, but post very little.
“Personally, I’ve always had a stupid prejudice about people recording every step of their life, but I respect it. I don’t spew hate on anyone for this (or any other) reason,” wrote the man in his Reddit post.
Recently, he and his wife welcomed a baby, and while pregnant, they both promised that it was silly to post multiple photos of their baby or “create exclusive social media for it.”
“Until the birth of a child, we had very similar values regarding children’s exposure to the Internet. To illustrate, when she was pregnant, Clara only posted two photos of her dilated belly, ”explained the man.
When their son, Daniel, was born, his wife had posted several pictures of their baby, which annoyed him, although he chose not to tell her about it.
“She was a mother who had just given birth, so I considered it normal behavior. But it didn’t stop over the weeks and I had to complain.
After expressing his opinion, the man said his wife was very upset, saying she loved their baby very much and that “he was the most beautiful child she had ever seen”, to which the man rolled her eyes but gave up.
When the couple’s baby was a month old, Clara told the man that she had made Daniel an Instagram profile.
The man immediately got angry, telling his wife that he didn’t agree with all this and asked her to delete it.
“She said I was totally unreasonable and the child was hers so she would do whatever she wanted. I said the child was mine too and I didn’t want so much exposure .
The two fought and ended up with the woman who went to her mother. The man also went to his mother-in-law and slept in the living room.
“I wasn’t going to miss my son’s moments because of a stupid fight. She got even more upset and we went home, but she refused to talk to me beyond the basics.
A month passed and Clara finally told her husband that she had deleted the Instagram account, but would continue to post less frequently on her own profile.
The man agreed to this, saying it was the best possible compromise.
However, the man came across the profile and saw that he now had 20,000 followers when he only had 1,000 before.
“I thought it was weird. I saw her transform too, it wasn’t just photos and videos of Daniel. She was documenting her routine,” the man revealed. a controlling person and I’m not going to say what my wife can and can’t do with her own image.”
The man also found out that his wife had lied and had just blocked him from seeing her son’s Instagram account for thinking it had been deleted.
When he found out, he took his wife’s phone from her hands, locked himself in the bathroom and deleted his son’s profile which had almost 30,000 subscribers.
“She doesn’t want to talk to me, her mum claims Clara will develop postpartum depression after all this stress,” the man wrote.
“I think it’s all terribly futile and I’m starting to think I’m a bit of an asshole for caring so much, but at the same time I don’t want that kind of life for my son.”
The man went on to say that he just wanted his son to have a normal childhood and didn’t want everything documented on Instagram.
Most Reddit users under the post agreed that the man was NTA (Not The A**hole) in the situation.
“Your son has not consented to his life being published online. There are studies documenting the anxiety children feel when they are old enough to go to school and discover that their whole life since the birth was documented online,” one user commented.
Another user commented, “Having a baby on social media is a joint decision between the parents and Clara deliberately went behind your back to do the opposite of what you agreed.”
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