Co-Parenting For A Better Society – Part 2 By LINDA ASIMOLE ELLAH

Co-Parenting For A Better Society – Part 2 By LINDA ASIMOLE ELLAH
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“… Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary for a wife, for that which is conceived in her comes from the Holy Spirit…” (Matthew 1:20)

Christmas: an act of co-parenting with a mission

The Christmas season is fast approaching and for those who are Christians we know what it was about. Christmas has arrived with two people accepting full responsibility for co-parenting for the good of mankind and for the salvation of the world. First, it started with Elizabeth and Zachariah co-parenting John, the Forerunner of Jesus Christ:

“But the angel said unto him, Fear not, Zechariah, for thy prayer is heard; and thy wife Elisabeth shall bear thee a son, and thou shalt call his name John. And you will have joy and gladness; and many will rejoice at his birth. For he will be great in the sight of the Lord, and will not drink wine or strong liquor; and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit from his mother’s womb. And many of the children of Israel will turn to the Lord their God. And he will walk before him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of fathers to children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous; to prepare a people prepared for the Lord. (Luke 1: 13-17).

And today we see the number of people and nations who are following the message brought by the acts of co-parenting of Mary and Joseph as shown in the Bible.

“Now, the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When her mother Mary was betrothed to Joseph, before they met, she found herself pregnant with the Holy Spirit. And her husband Joseph, being a just man and not wanting to shame her, resolved to divorce discreetly. But as he was considering these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying: ‘Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary for a wife, for what is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. . She will bring forth a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins ”(Matthew 1: 18-21).

Every child has a vision

The birth of John and Jesus shows us that every child is born with a mission and a vision known to God. John’s mission was: “And he will go before him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous; to prepare a people prepared for the Lord ”. Then, the mission for the baby Jesus was “for he will save his people from their sins”.

You should also not lose sight of the mission that the child in your care is supposed to accomplish, whether or not you know what that mission is. It is with your act of co-parenting, well accomplished, that the child ends up knowing what his mission and his vision are.

It is through your co-parenting choices and actions, well executed with a high sense of responsibility, knowledge and understanding, as well as the wisdom of God, that you can help build this important foundation to bring about this mission and this. vision to be fulfilled in the child’s life. life. Yes, our choices can have an impact on generations. Your influence as a co-parent can develop children who will have a big impact on the world. Then, may this impact be for the good.

Co-parenting is intentional

Life can be full of excuses and blame games, and we’ve probably all tasted them. Amid excuses, blame games, and plenty of reasons to complain and complain, our co-parenting responsibilities must be intentional.

1. Develop the skills that will help you become a good parent.
2. Be present and available: Absent fathers and mothers cause great harm to their children. The children you bring into the world really need to be a part of your life and the things that you do every day. Being there and available for them should be part of your daily schedule, not just the tired, sleepy part of you.
3. Be clear about the practical values, principles, discipleship, morals, and religious training you wish to impart to children, and strive to be an example yourself.
4. Be open to learning and to becoming a better parent as you grow up with the children.
5. Let your playful side work out so you can have fun with the kids.
6. Pray that wisdom will know where to be flexible, when to be firm, and when to say yes or no.
7. Maintain good relations and good communication with your co-parent, be it your husband, wife or partner. This will help both parties to be on the same page when it comes to how to train and guide children on the right path.

Parenting skills

According to Daniel Wong, here are 12 parenting skills you need to have to be a good parent:

1. Focus more on your children’s positive behavior than on negative behavior.
2. Teach your children to focus on the needs of others.
3. Don’t yell at your kids.
4. Give your children responsibilities around the house.
5. Build a strong relationship with your spouse.
6. Teach your children to see challenges in a positive way.
7. Don’t do things for your children that your children should be doing for themselves.
8. Help your children develop social skills: sharing, making eye contact, giving feedback, accepting differences, respecting other people’s goods and feelings, dealing with negative emotions, being polite, asking for help, don’t interrupt and disagree with respect.
9. Guide your children without controlling or micromanaging them.
10. Give your children a sense of security: show affection, appreciate them, keep your promises, be approachable and reliable, acknowledge their feelings and treat them with respect.
11. Help your children develop resilience and perseverance.
12. Manage your own stress effectively.

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